1. Don't take anything personally. Recognize that at least 3/4 of what you see is actually the person's reaction to events, people, and feelings of the past. Suspiciousness isn't about you, it's a natural human response to terrors that, if you didn't experience similar things yourself, are probably incomprehensible to you.

2. Expect changes at odd times. This includes changes in mood, attitudes, thinking, speaking, dress, interests and just about anything else. Look at it as the opportunity to date more than one person at once. Enjoy the variety.

3. Listen. Listen some more, and try to be accepting. As in #1 above, you may not understand (or believe) the past experiences of the person you are dating, if you did not have such events in your life. You may not want to believe it. You may want to question the person's memories -- squelch this desire. Whether the memories are exactly true or not isn't the point; the point is the effects.

4. Protect yourself. Accepting the person doesn't mean letting them manipulate you (whether conscious or not). Be prepared to end conversations, leave the room, put your foot down, state your feelings and act on them. If you feel you are being manipulated, you probably are. You aren't doing the person any favors by being their victim.

5. Recognize that being with a person who dissociates can be very rewarding. Look for the positive and don't feed the negative. Remember that you have your issues too, and resist the temptation to blame all relationship issues on the other person!

It's true that it takes a strong person to date a multiple, but you can always become stronger. Would you date a person with multiple personalities?